Do you find it hard to ask for help?
The Beatles famously said, “Help! I need somebody, Help! Not just anybody. Help, you know I need someone, help!” (I know you were singing, don’t try to deny it!)
God knows there have been times when these words felt like a fitting soundtrack to my life.
We’ve all been there. Sometimes we go through difficult times that bring us to our knees figuratively and perhaps even literally.
Life is like an obstacle course so we better prepare ourselves for some scraped knees and bruised bums along the way.
However it’s always easier to face those blasted Monkey Bars and overcome the obstacles in the playground of life with a wonderful team of supporters on the sidelines cheering us on.
The thing is those loyal fans wouldn’t be there if we didn’t ask for their support.
In fact that’s what asking for help is. It’s realising that you can’t do something on your own and asking for a helping hand.
So, in understanding this simple theory, why do so many of us find it so hard to ask for help?
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This is a prickly subject. It shouldn’t be but it is.
It can be exciting and liberating whilst at the same time evoke feelings of resentment and sometimes trigger a confrontation.
It’s something that we’re encouraged to do from an early age.
Remember when you were at school and the big kid pushed you over in the playground or stole the toy you were playing with? You were taught to kiss and make up.
I’m teaching Muffin the very same lesson at the moment. When the bigger kids push past him on the climbing frame in the park, I find myself reassuring him with the words, “they didn’t mean it.”
So what happens to us when we get older? Why do we find it so hard to kiss and make up?
Perhaps it’s our pride or our stubbornness. Maybe we allow our egos to get in the way.
Maybe we think that forgiveness is a sign of weakness and we choose to withdraw our love instead. This usually creates further distance in the relationship and more unnecessary pain in the long run.
But if we can find it in our hearts to forgive those who have wronged us then the benefits can be HUGE.
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