Is it time to check out of life’s inessentials?
OK, I’ve got a question for you guys…
Is it time to check out of life’s inessentials?
Over the past few weeks I’ve spent a lot of time unsubscribing from email newsletters, turning off my notifications and opting out of group chats.
Basically anything that I felt was no longer serving me or that I felt I wasn’t learning or growing from, I decided to call departure time on. I checked out.
Well, because when you choose to check out of the things that are no longer benefiting you in a productive way you free yourself up to focus on more exciting and enriching things.
Obviously, you still have the same 24-hours in the day but you can now use these precious moments more wisely doing the things that increase happiness and improve the quality of your life.
When we choose to check out of the inessential things that often clutter up our lives we can check-in with your friends and family on a deeper level.
We can also use our time to check-in with ourselves and on our own life’s purpose; what drives us, turns us on, motivates and supports the acquisition of our dreams.
I found the process of checking out of a few group chats the other day very liberating.
I know I sound a little dramatic but here’s what happened.
After I checked out, I realised that I had no reason to check the WhatsApp group to see if anyone had posted anything.
I had fewer reasons to carry my phone in the back pocket of my jeans while I hoovered the house.
There was no need to take my phone with me when we went out for a Sunday family walk or heaven forbid take it with me to the little girls room. (I mean, what on earth is so important that you need to read your phone whilst sitting on the bog!)
Here’s the thing, before I decided to leave these social groups, I thought about how much I was contributing to them and how much I was getting out of them. I suggest you carry out a mini survey of your own.
If after closer evaluation you realise, like me, that you are no longer giving or getting as much as you once did then the decision is made.
Now, I hasten to add that my love for the peeps in the group chats remained unchanged but my need to be part of the online group was no longer a necessity in my life – at least not right now.
So, you might be curious about what I decided to check out from…
- emails from people/companies that I never read
- newsletters that I subscribed to but no longer have an interest in
- Facebook, twitter, pinterest and other social media news and updates that I don’t need to know about
- text messaging and email notifications that distract me from what I’m doing at the time. I switched them all off.
- Flashes, vibrations, beeps, dings and all other noises that my phone can make that interrupt me throughout the day. I turned them all off.
I know they seem like obvious things but it will amaze you to see how much energy – mental, emotional and psychical – you use up in reacting, responding or replying to all the inessential things that show up throughout your day.
So, here’s what I decided to do. I decided to trade texting for talking.
I opted to make a conscious effort to phone my friends more and have a good old fashioned chat.
Do remember the good ol’ days when we used to call each other and hear the other person’s voice?!
If they’re overseas friends then I’ll FaceTime them.
I’ll spend quality time checking-in on that relationship and make my friend a priority, because they are.
It’s worth stating that this check out process has been very cleansing.
I realised that some of my friendships are really important to me and those are the ones that I am passionate about and committed to honouring and investing in.
But here’s the kicker, I realised that some friendships are not. That might sound a little harsh but it’s true.
There might be relationships in your life that you need to break away from.
Perhaps it’s time to check out of it so you can experience something or someone new.
Since starting my check out program I have seen a massive shift to the positive with respect to both my work flow and productivity as well as the quality of social time I’m spending with friends and family.
So, here’s what you can look forward to after you check out…
- You’ll get more done. You’ll be more productive and focused.
- You’ll engage more with the people around you.
- You’ll begin to appreciate the gift of living in the present a lot more.
- You’ll have more time to internalise your own thoughts and emotions and think about YOU; what you’re doing or plan to do.
- You will ultimately free yourself up to enjoy the real joys of life. And appreciate the richness of your life.
And that’s what I want for you – A life of true abundance; more love, more joy and a true sense of meaning and purpose.
After all isn’t that what life is all about ? – the real connections we create throughout our lives.
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‘Til next time folks,
All my love,