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Pearl Grace Life: Give what you want

Give what you want

Give what you want

Pearl Grace Life: Give what you wantI’ve got a question for you.

What’s the one thing you want most? And no, I’m talking about the latest Ferrari or pair of Louboutin heels.

As nice as they both sound, gifts of the material variety are not what I’m talking about today.

I’m asking you to consider what one thing you crave the most in your life right now.

Do you want more confidence? More courage? More love? More companionship? 

Do you desire more success? More meaning? More peace? More passion?

Go on, dig deep and ask yourself what you really want right now?

At the time of writing this post, I want more patience.

It feels as though my little boy has hit the quote-unquote “terrible-twos” a year and half late.

He is driving us absolutely crazy and right now what I want, and desperately need for my own sanity, is more patience.

Now, all my habitual yoga and meditative practices seem fine when I’m lying on my mat in the calm and peaceful dawn of twilight while the rest of the house is asleep.

But when the creek of Ealy’s bedroom door breaks the silence of my meditative state I know that soon enough all hell will break lose for then next 12 hours.

So, I’ve been thinking, how can I get better at dealing with my ‘incredibly-adorable-but-makes-me-want-to-pull-my-hair-out’ son?

And then I remembered something that I heard a couple of years ago from author and personal development, Darren Hardy, in his book The Compound Effect.

He said, “Whatever I want more of in life, I’ve found the best way to get it is to focus on giving it to others… The ripple effect of helping others and giving generously of your time and energy is that you become the biggest beneficiary of your personal philanthropy”. 

And all of a sudden, right then and there, I decided a shift in my behaviour was necessary.

If I wanted to have more patience throughout the day then I needed to focus my attention and energy on demonstrating it to others.

That meant, not getting in a strop at the Post Office because the clerk was taking longer than I would’ve liked with another customer.

That meant not looking at my watch when Drew started to tell me about his day.

That meant not yelling at Riley for stopping “too much” to smell the grass and play with other dogs while on the morning walk.

Pearl Grace Life: Give what you wantNo. Right then and there, I decided that in order for me to invite patience in to my life I had to demonstrate a patient attitude to everyone with whom I came into contact with.

By doing this, I found that it naturally filtered through into my interactions with the Little Master of the house.

Now, I’m not saying that it works every time – heck, I’m still dealing with an unpredictable 3-year old – but for the most part it really helps.

As we embark on the start of a new week and as we approach Valentine’s Day, I want to pass this philosophy over to you.

Ask yourself, what do I want more of? And then ask yourself, who can I give more of that same thing to?

If you lack confidence, think about who you can give more confidence to. If you want more success in your life, think of the people you can inspire and help to attain success in their own lives.

And yes, as Valentine’s Day creeps closer and closer, this question is very befitting; If you want more love, who can you give more love to?

And I’m talking about all forms of love; from intimate love to platonic love, from the love you show to your children to the love you show to a stranger.

I believe that when you give more love you open yourself up to receiving more of the same. And that same rule applies to everything else that you choose to share/give to others.

Now, before I go, I want to leave you with this final thought. Don’t forget to include yourself in the list of worthy recipients.

Show more love to yourself this week. Show yourself more kindness, more tenderness, more patience and more respect.

When you screw up – as we all do from time to time – say nice things to yourself, don’t beat yourself up. Tell yourself, you live to fight another day and will do better next time.

So, my darlings, go now, and give it a try. Then come back and tell me how it impacted your life.

Go give what you want.

Love Nat x

Discover more about Darren Hardy HERE.

Title image courtesy of www.breckcreate.org and content images from www.pinterest.com and quotesgram.com

Oh and in case you were wondering why I’ve chosen a Dirty Dancing pic for the title image. It’s because it’s full of many of the themes we’ve talked about here; love, courage, passion, self-esteem, bravery and the rest. Plus it’s hot ‘n’ steamy – ideal V-Day viewing x  

Pearl Grace Life, A Schoolboy's Dream

A Schoolboy’s Dream

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A Schoolboy’s Dream

Pearl Grace Life, A schoolboy's dreamSometimes you hear a story that perfectly exemplifies what you are going through.

Well, the other day I was playing imaginary games with Ealy.

Most of the food that I give him, take on different characters and embark on a variety of incredible adventures between the time of leaving his plate and reaching his gob.

This morning was no different. His slice of toast was a scorpion that magically transformed into a helicopter when it reached space. (Pretty, cool, huh?!)

Anyway, somewhere between burning the toast and tripping over Riley with a cup of peppermint tea, I thought about how amazing Ealy’s imagination is. To him everything and anything is possible and his dreams have no bounds.

In that moment I felt compelled to write about it but first I knew I had a canine to walk.

As I headed out the door I stuck my headphones in my ears and an audio program began to play.

It was playing Darren Hardy’s Living Your Best Year EverIt was approaching the end of the recording where Darren tells a story about a schoolboy’s dream. The story originally came from Jack Canfield and you’ll find links to these guys below.

It’s a real pleasure to share the same story with you here because I think it beautiful showcases the power of vision, imagination, having a dream and pursuing it.

  

Tweet it out peeps: “There is nothing like a dream to create the future” – Victor Hugo via @PearlGraceLife

So, here it goes…

There’s a man named Monty Roberts who owns a horse ranch in Santa Cedro.

Standing before a group of people at a fundraising event, Monty tells the story of a young man who is the son of a roaming horse trainer who would go from stable to stable, race track to race track, farm to farm and ranch to ranch training horses.

As a result the boy’s high school career was continually interrupted. When he was a senior he was asked to write a paper about what he wanted to be when he grew up.

That evening he wrote a 7 page paper describing his goal of someday owning a horse ranch. He wrote about his dream in great detail and even drew a diagram of a 200 acre ranch showing the location of all the buildings, the stables and the track.

Then he drew a detailed floor plan of a 4000 sq ft house that would sit on the 200 acre dream ranch. He put a great deal of his heart into the project and the next day he proudly handed it to the teacher.

Two days later he received his paper back.

On the front of the page was a large red F with a note that read “See me after class”.

The boy with a dream went to see the teacher after class and asked, “Why did I receive an F?”

The teacher said, “This is an unrealistic goal for a boy like you. You have no money. You come from a nomadic family. You have no resources. Owning a horse ranch requires lots of money. You have to buy the land. You have to pay for the original breeding stock and later you’ll have to pay large stud fees. There’s no way you could ever do it.”

Then the teacher added, “If you will re-write the paper with a more realistic goal I will reconsider your grade.”

The boy went home and thought about it long and hard. He asked his father what he should do. His father said, “Look, son, you have to make up your mind on this however I think it’s a very important decision for you.”

Finally, after sitting with it for a week, the boy turned in the same paper, making no changes at all. He said, ” You keep the F, I’ll keep my dream.”

Monty then turned to the assembled group and said I tell you this story because I am that boy and you are sitting in my 4000 sq ft ranch house in the middle of my 200 acre horse ranch.

I still have that school paper framed over the fireplace. He added the best part of the story is that 2 summers ago that same school teacher brought 30 kids to camp out on my ranch for a week.

When the teacher was leaving he said, “Look, Monty, I can tell you this now. When I was your teacher I was something of a dream-stealer. During those years I stole a lot of kids dreams. Fortunately, you had enough gumption to not give up on yours.”

So, as we wrap up our chat today, I want to urge you to never be discouraged and never let anyone steal your dream, nor you theirs for that matter.

Let’s take extra care of the dreams and goals of our kids.

Their spirits are so precious so let’s support them as much as possible. Giving them permission to fantasise, pretend, imagine and dream those wildly ambitious, sensationally unbelievable and extraordinary dreams. Who knows, they may very well come true… wouldn’t that be amazing!

Oh, and in case you were wondering, “what’s with the Katy Perry vid?” Well, it’s there as a gentle reminder of how incredible and unique you truly are. You know, in case you forgot!

So, as Katy says, go and, “let your colours burst.”

With my love, always,
Nat x

Please note: the story, the names, references and entire passage is property of Darren Hardy from his program, Living Your Best Year Ever. Pearl Grace Life does not take any credit for it – I just love it’s message and believe such messages are worth sharing.      

For more on Darren Hardy check out his blog here and to learn more about Jack Canfield head here.

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Pearl Grace Sugar Sweet

Sugar Sweet

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Sugar Sweet

Pearl Grace Life Show me yoursOk, this one’s for the girls, although fellas you’ll appreciate it too. In fact I’ll go as far as to say you will love it.

Before we dive right in, you’ll find a link to the audio post that inspired me to write today’s post at the end.

But for now here’s the general gist…

According to Darren Hardy – who by the way is an incredible guy, author, speaker and publisher of Success Magazine – what a man really wants isn’t what we ladies have always thought. You know, food, sex and refuge. Nope, that’s not what he wants.

Here’s Darren’s take:

He wants to be your hero. He wants to impress you. He wants your praise.
ALL we want… more than anything or from anyone… is to hear praise from our woman, to be impressive to her, to be HER hero.

He goes on to say,

Tell your man he is your hero. Be his biggest fan and cheerleader. Make him feel that he is impressive to you. Don’t let others praise and appreciate him more than you do. Continually praise, appreciate and pat him on the head and he will be your best friend and loyal companion forever.

Ok. Girls what do you make of that? 

You gotta listen to the whole thing to reap the full benefit of what he says but when I first heard this perspective I couldn’t stop laughing.

Not because I disagreed but because I felt like this guy had rumbled me and the jig was up!

I’ve been guilty of doing exactly what Darren talks about – holding back the praise because I didn’t think Drew needed it.

Let me be real for a sec. I know my man, and as much as I love him, I often hold back on showering him with sugar sweetness because I think he’s pretty good at stroking his own ego. (I mean that in the most loving of way of course).

But as Darren says so brilliantly, that’s beside the point and totally the wrong way to look at it.

If the only true thing your man is craving on a daily basis is your adulation, your praise and your eternal love then why not just give it to him?

I forwarded the message to Drew much to his delight and he was singing Darren Hardy’s praises for the rest of day! (It was very annoying.)

The truth is it takes nothing for me to tell Drew that I think he’s awesome, that he killed it on a brief (if he did) and that he looked amazing the other night he went out…  you know, girls, all the sugar sweet things that we love to hear our fellas say to us.

And guess what? It works both ways. If we give our men the reverence they so fervently desire then they’ll most likely do the same for us. Win-Win baby!

And to drill home the point further, I’ve been rinsing Maroon 5 on my iPhone this week; while out walking Riley, while strolling through the supermarket, whilst doing the laundry and cooking dinner and the lyrics to their song Sugar is not just wickedly awesome but it  reaffirms Darren’s thoughts on a man’s true needs. Making it a fabulous song for today’s post.

“Sugar, yes please, won’t you come and put it down on me. I’m right here, cos I need, a little love and sympathy. So baby show me good loving make it alright, I need a little sweetness in my life.” – Maroon 5, Sugar

And so for your viewing pleasure…

Hey, why not for the purpose of today, this week, this year, imagine your man singing these words to you…Mmm, Adam Levine… uh, I mean Mister Drew 😉

Sugar Sweet lovin’ baby

x

Discover more about Darren Hardy and listen to the full audio HERE (you’ll love it!)

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Is confidence over-rated?

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Is confidence over-rated?

Have you ever fancied someone but never told him or her how you felt because you were afraid of what they’d say?

Have you ever really wanted something but didn’t go for it because you didn’t think you were good enough?

I know I have.

Pearl Grace Blog, confidenceI think it was because I lacked confidence. I don’t think I would have admitted this before but that was the truth.

Despite going to theatre school, performing on stage and having an outgoing personality, I lacked confidence and self-belief for many years.

I would use my lack of knowledge, limited experience and minimal resources as “valid” reasons that prevented me from going after some big opportunities in my life.

The truth was they were just excuses.

I’d convince myself into thinking that I didn’t have what it took to get the gig or get the job because I wasn’t “good enough”.

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