Before we dive right in, you’ll find a link to the audio post that inspired me to write today’s post at the end.
But for now here’s the general gist…
According to Darren Hardy – who by the way is an incredible guy, author, speaker and publisher of Success Magazine – what a man really wants isn’t what we ladies have always thought. You know, food, sex and refuge. Nope, that’s not what he wants.
Here’s Darren’s take:
He wants to be your hero. He wants to impress you. He wants your praise.
ALL we want… more than anything or from anyone… is to hear praise from our woman, to be impressive to her, to be HER hero.
He goes on to say,
Tell your man he is your hero. Be his biggest fan and cheerleader. Make him feel that he is impressive to you. Don’t let others praise and appreciate him more than you do. Continually praise, appreciate and pat him on the head and he will be your best friend and loyal companion forever.
Ok. Girls what do you make of that?
You gotta listen to the whole thing to reap the full benefit of what he says but when I first heard this perspective I couldn’t stop laughing.
Not because I disagreed but because I felt like this guy had rumbled me and the jig was up!
I’ve been guilty of doing exactly what Darren talks about – holding back the praise because I didn’t think Drew needed it.
Let me be real for a sec. I know my man, and as much as I love him, I often hold back on showering him with sugar sweetness because I think he’s pretty good at stroking his own ego. (I mean that in the most loving of way of course).
But as Darren says so brilliantly, that’s beside the point and totally the wrong way to look at it.
If the only true thing your man is craving on a daily basis is your adulation, your praise and your eternal love then why not just give it to him?
I forwarded the message to Drew much to his delight and he was singing Darren Hardy’s praises for the rest of day! (It was very annoying.)
The truth is it takes nothing for me to tell Drew that I think he’s awesome, that he killed it on a brief (if he did) and that he looked amazing the other night he went out… you know, girls, all the sugar sweet things that we love to hear our fellas say to us.
And guess what? It works both ways. If we give our men the reverence they so fervently desire then they’ll most likely do the same for us. Win-Win baby!
And to drill home the point further, I’ve been rinsing Maroon 5 on my iPhone this week; while out walking Riley, while strolling through the supermarket, whilst doing the laundry and cooking dinner and the lyrics to their song Sugar is not just wickedly awesome but it reaffirms Darren’s thoughts on a man’s true needs. Making it a fabulous song for today’s post.
“Sugar, yes please, won’t you come and put it down on me. I’m right here, cos I need, a little love and sympathy. So baby show me good loving make it alright, I need a little sweetness in my life.” – Maroon 5, Sugar
And so for your viewing pleasure…
Hey, why not for the purpose of today, this week, this year, imagine your man singing these words to you…Mmm, Adam Levine… uh, I mean Mister Drew 😉
Sugar Sweet lovin’ baby
Discover more about Darren Hardy and listen to the full audio HERE (you’ll love it!)
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